Executive Mansion

                                                                                                                         Washington, November 21, 1864

To Mrs. Bixby,     Boston, Massachusetts.

Dear Madam,

I have been shown in the files of the War Department a statement of the Adjutant General of Massachusetts, that you are the mother of five sons who have died gloriously on the field of battle. 

I feel how weak and fruitless must be any word of mine which should attempt to beguile you from the grief of a loss so overwhelming. But I cannot refrain from tendering to you the consolation that may be found in the thanks of the Republic they died to save. 

I pray that our Heavenly Father may assuage the anguish of your bereavement, and leave you only the cherished memory of the loved and lost, and the solemn pride that must be yours, to have laid so costly a sacrifice upon the altar of Freedom.

Yours, very sincerely and respectfully,



(Per files of the War Department shown to President Lincoln in November 1864)

The Sons of Oliver C. & Lydia Parker Bixby

Sgt. Charles N. Bixby - Co. D,  20th MA (18 Jul 1861-3 May 1863)

Pvt. Oliver C. Bixby, Jr.- Co. E, 58th MA (26 Feb1864-30 Jul 1864)

Cpl. Henry C. Bixby - Co. K,  32nd MA (1862-1864)

Cpl. George A. Bixby - Co. H,  25th MA (17 Sep 1861-7 Jul 1864)

Pvt. Arthur Edward Bixby - Co. C,  MA 1st Hvy Artillery (24 Jun 1861-28 May 1862)


The Son of Abraham & Mary Todd Lincoln

William "Willie" Wallace Lincoln

Born: December 21, 1850 - Springfield, Illinois

Died: February 20, 1862 - White House, Washington


"Throughout the years some historians and scholars would debate as to the accuracy of President Lincoln's poignant letter to Mrs. Bixby in November 1864.   Contrary to public opinion or fact, I personally view Mr. Lincoln's heartfelt words as those being shared from one grieving parent to another .. and truly understood by only those who have experienced the loss of a son or daughter." - - Helen More


Presented by:
Helen Marie Melly More
Marlborough, Massachusetts

20 November 1999


Background Music: "Saving Private Ryan"


With My Appreciation and Acknowledgements To:

Biggest Movie Midi Archives

Chicago Historical Society

National Archives & Records Administration


In addition .. please select any portion of the following  underlined   Chapters:


Civil War  - Pennsylvania Regiments

The Blue Uniform         My Family  ..   A Call to Arms          "Dear Mother" ...  1862 Letter             A Proper Burial

Roll of Honor ... Our Fallen Lads            The Drummer Boy           Medal of Honor - Sgt. Pursell  

104th PA Regiment        Battle of Fair Oaks         69th PA - Irish Brigade of Philadelphia

72nd PA - Sgt. George Leidy Hess

"The Gettysburg Address"

"Dear Mrs. Bixby" ... 1864 Letter - President Lincoln

From the Halls of Montezuma - U.S. Marine Corps

"Pledge of Allegiance"

My name is ... "Old Glory"

September 11, 2001  .. "Let's roll"

Appomattox .. "The Blue and Gray"

Philly in the 1940's .. A Trip down Memory Lane



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